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Russian Bride Agency Conspiracies

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Russian Bride Agency Conspiracies

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You read all over the internet NEGATIVE OPINIONS about how Russian Bride agencies run their business. It almost seems that everyday there is a new conspiracy developing over such-n-such agency and how they DO BUSINESS. That their agency is a scam, the Russian women are fake and the forever thundering echo of “I’ve paid nearly $200 and not one girl has ever written me back!” I’ve even heard men say that almost all of the Russian Bride sites have the same girls, that a truly great agency won’t share their girls, etc. But my friends, there are always TWO SIDES to every story, and perhaps after reading this article, you will think twice BEFORE blasting out your own conspiracy theory….

CONSIDER THIS:

There are many dating sites that contain the same profiles. When I was a member of Match.com so many years ago, I used to see the same girls all the time on other sites as well, such as matchmaker.com, udate and yahoo personals. We all joined multiple sites to spread ourselves out — to have more options. And during that time, I can say that I joined nearly every site imaginable. So would you agree that all of these sites are involved in some kind of conspiracy because they have the same profiles?

A man searching for a Russian bride joins 2-3 sites at once, writes to many ladies, gets his photo in the site catalogue that is presented to Russian women… so that’s 3 site catalogues he is now a member of. The ladies see his photo in 3 different catalogues and begin to wonder… is he involved in a conspiracy then too, simply because he has joined 2-3 different Russian Bride sites?

A man describes himself as being wealthy, good looking and successful… and he sends out 400 emails telling Russian women how he is a God in bed, how women love him and worship the ground he walks upon. How he loves to have cybersex and invites all Russian women to join him in on the fun… yet not one letter was returned. Is this a conspiracy?

BOTTOM LINE:

Business is business — always has been and always will be. Part of the success to any dating site is having a large database to attract new customers. Profiles hardly ever get removed — and while some do remove the old profiles, most do not. My profile is still on many of the other dating sites and I can’t get them to remove it because I forgot the email address I used to sign up with. This was 5 years ago too!

Russian girls are human too — and they spread themselves out too by joining many different marriage agencies. Many of the Russian bride sites use real marriage agencies located in Russia, and many of these agencies are NOT exclusive to just one bride site. They are all in business to make money, so you cannot blame them for spreading themselves out too. And after a while, these same Russian girls forget which marriage agencies they joined up with, lose contact or whatever, and their profiles stay forever in the database. It’s part of the dating business and will always be like that. Nobody’s fault really — but don’t blame a dating agency for not deleting a profile simply because a user has forgotten to contact them and tell them to remove it.

Agencies are not the bad guys nor the good guys. They are a business, plain and simple. They have a list of over 30,000 clients, some even more — so do you really expect them to call every single women and ask if their still single? Does match.com do that? For the record, does any dating site do that? Of course not and it’s ludicrous to think that they should.

And what about writing those letters and not getting any responses? Well, what about it?!! Write some more and keep on truckin’! Not everyone is going to think you’re as great as YOU seem to know that you are. That’s life… get used to disappointment. I sent out probably thousands of letters in my 4 years of online dating, and at best, I might have gotten maybe a 15% return rate. In my opinion, that is actually pretty good too. Online dating is not easier, so don’t be a fool and think it is. It only gives you more options to meeting more people — but along side of that also comes more rejections.

So the next time you hear a negative”Opinion” about how Russian dating agencies are handled, just remember one thing… they are in business to make money; and whether or not the practices of certain agencies might be argued as being ILLEGITIMATE, you always still have the choice of NOT JOINING. If you believe a certain agency carries a lousy reputation, then why bother joining it in the first place? Just move on and find another site to join that you feel more comfortable with. Good luck!

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Understanding Your Russian Women

So you have found your perfect match. There is definitely chemistry between the two of you and you undeniably click. She's beautiful, smart, kind, and funny. She is caring and warm. She is demure and proper, yet she gets out of her shell once in a while when needed. She is a charmer and can laugh at herself. Simply put, she is perfect.

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Here comes the bigger challenge keeping her. By now you have probably gone through a number of interracial marriage agencies, Internet-based marriage agencies, and a number of meet-ups in and out of the country. Never let your efforts go to waste. Make sure that your love is a keeper.

Here are the ways.
Forget everything you learned from the dating site or marriage agency you signed up for. Once you are together, it is up to the both of you to work on your compatibility. Start all over again and explore everything about each other as if you have never communicated before.

Don't compare her to other women, whether Western women or Russian Women. Recognize the fact that that she is her own unique self. There may be things about her that you may find different, maybe even weird. But just sit back and you may actually realize that these are the things you miss the most when you're not together.

Know a little about her history. Her thinking and attitude are shaped by the grievances, hardships, celebrations, and experiences her nation and her people have had in the past. If you do exert some effort, you may be able to find fascinating things about her country and her ancestors. You will eventually be able to understand how and why she thinks the way that she does.

Understand her traditions. If you understand the tradition that your Russian woman grew up in, you will be able to determine the things she would find beautiful, interesting, and offensive. Know that Russian women are conservative and do not easily open up about sensitive topics such as sex. She is reserved and private, therefore she reveals her inner self only to a few chosen people. If you are sensitive about her nature, then she will appreciate you more.

Try to learn their language. Or at least learn how to say I love you in Russian (get your first lesson for free). Doing this creates the impression that you are willing to do small, simple, and sweet things for her. Doing this also communicates that you ready for a committed relationship that may actually result in a walk down the aisle.

Find out what makes her tick. Be observant. Take visual clues of what she finds amazing. When you see her face light up, take note of what just took place or what she just saw. If you keep doing the things she loves, then you are sure to get that love back.

Stick to your woman. This is perhaps the best advice you can take. There is no excuse for cheating. And cheaters are not worthy to be forgiven. Russian woman, like any other woman of any descent, appreciate honesty above everything else. Without honesty, there can be no trust. Without trust, there can be no relationship.

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Lucky for me, when these questions began swarming in my head, a good girlfriend of mine, who has lived in Italy for a number of years, was in town to visit her family. So, instead of digging through piles of statistics and wracking my brain to get the information so interesting for me, I contacted her and loaded her brain with all the questions.

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Before I move on, let me make myself clear: by no means does this article include motives and wants of every Russian bride, who submits her profile to a marriage agency. And I will be the first to encourage the foreigners: try be be as cautious as possible if you decided to apply to a marriage agency. In the past, some Russian ladies from the FSU countries have provided more than enough negative publicity (read my article on scams in Lugansk city, Ukraine), but don’t let that discourage you and miss out on a chance to gift someone the pleasure of communication and a possibility to find love. With that in mind, I proceed

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When I began questioning the motives of Russian women who take a chance on marriage agencies, my first discovery was quite disturbing. One of the main explanations for the FSU women to like foreigners is that men from their native countries… aren’t good enough. There are a lot of bad stories about the life of Russian girls in foreign countries. Why not admit that the reason is in those men at home, who, in my opinion, don’t know what a family is?” – said Natasha commenting on the article in one of the leading Russian papers, which blamed marriages to the foreigners. “Unfortunately, there are a lot of things the ‘Russian’ men would have to do to keep up with the foreigners.” Some bridal agencies will give you the same information. An American journalist, who took a “Romance tour to find a Russian bride” trip to Ukraine as a part of his investigation for a story, says in his on-line journal that the instructor on the tour explained to him: Ukrainian and Russian men “drink, philander, alternately beat and neglect women.”

Obviously, not every FSU man treats women this way. Nevertheless, a general conception that most Russian brides and Ukrainian women share of the men in their home countries comes down to a few common words: irresponsible, hard-hearted, too demanding and not willing to provide for their children, let alone their mother. Throughout history Russian women have been famous for the way they treated their family. They are loving, devoted and caring, and, coming to a marriage agency they dream to find someone like themselves to create a strong happy family.

The other thing noticed by Natasha during her three-year-long marriage to a foreigner: To tell you the truth, marrying him I didn’t think about living in Italy… But for Italians the family is very-very important and they put a great emphasis on the family values. That meant a lot to me. Foreigners in general seem to be more serious about family and children, unlike the men at home.”

In line with a lack of quality of the FSU men, there is also a lack of quantity. The year 2002 gave us a discouraging statistics showing the ratio men-women 46:100, nothing has much changed since then. Given that a large part of these 46% are people who can’t be counted on for love, care and support, it leaves the ladies of Russia and Ukraine very little to chose from. Obviously, when something you need is not in sight, you look to broader horizons.

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“All the good ones have been snatched away long ago, your chances to find someone in this country after you turn 25 are next to nil,” Natasha mused over a cup of coffee (she married her Italian sweetheart at the age of 29). “It seems the guys (in Ukraine) disappear when they turn 30.”

On the top of all said, the appreciation of their own femininity sets the FSU women apart from American or European ladies. A lot of men can see that the FSU women are different. And this is not only about their outer beauty that is so well-known. These ladies like to look pretty, it is not unusual for them to wear a dress and pumps on a regular basis, they care about their body and like to be attractive. Bottom line, they want to be feminine, not feminist.

The FSU women cherish being a “weak gender”, which for them means taking care of their family in the first place, as well as being cared for and appreciated. Promises of that seem to be given in abundance by Americans and Europeans, many of whom share an opinion that it has been too long since Western women have shown any aspiration to cherish the softer side of the “weaker gender”. The men abroad consider the tender feminine side of Russian women a great advantage comparing to Western women mad about careers and getting equal with men. Even some FSU men notice that the foreigners are attracted by “their” women because they “remain women, not some emancipated feminists, like in the West”.

Natasha dreamily remembers her very first visitings Italy: “When I was in Italy I was treated like a princess surrounded with attention, that I missed so much from our men. I think there is so much beauty (in Russia), that our men are simply used to it, it is mundane to them, they forget about simple compliments Italians value beauty.”

After all this, what can I say to the men in search of their destiny? It all comes down to what you are looking for. No doubt, there will be some money-hungry vamps, eager to trap you. If you want to find a woman for one night it is not a problem either in Ukraine or Russia nor anywhere else in the world. But if you are looking for a woman who will respect you, relish her family and be as smart as she is pretty, the chances of you finding that in Ukraine or Russia are greater than at any other place.

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Russian Scam Brides: The Early Signs of Scam and How to Protect Yourself

Russian Scam Brides: The Early Signs of Scam and How to Protect Yourself

‘Russian scam brides’ is a never ending exciting subject of online publications. In this article, the burning questions and complaints about hot Russian brides are discussed. Are Russian brides true or scam? Russian brides are TRUE! Unfortunately, there is always someone ready to empty the pockets of men who are overly eager for romantic adventures. Keep your eyes and ears open, so to say. Here are some stats about Russian scam brides: 0.1% of all applicants submitting their information to the Russian dating services are scammers. Who are these Russian scam brides? They are a small group of people (they may not be even women) earning money this way on the Internet. They view relationships as more of a business enterprise. They send emails to all available singles through dating services. Just like email spamming, they are searching for their victims and following the rules of the game they play. How can Russian scam brides be recognized? Here are the top 4 early signs of scam. The letters a man receives are not specific. They tend to be generalized, not answering the exact needs of the given man. Direct questions about personal life are usually avoided, just some ready pieces of information.

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Scammers play to man’s instincts, to whatever he wants to hear and see: beautiful model – quality appearance (usually false), sexy photos, “special love” they mention after a few letters… If a given man considers this speed strange, it is. Until you met in person, any claims of love should be suspect.

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The majority of scams involve money. The so called Russia woman usually asks for financial support: terrible financial situation, telephone fees, Internet expenses, etc. Scammers are always mercenary, they usually look for the man’s sympathy, for “what you can buy for me” (it is their job!).

Close attention should be paid to the huge age difference. In this case the chances of being scammed only increase. For the sake of justice it should be said that some real good girls are attracted by the older men (security, stability). However, it is not surprising that Russian scam brides are likely to be involved with much older men. How to protect yourself from being scammed? Here are the top 4 effective, simple and easy techniques that can help you avoid being scammed.

Never send money to strangers. The majority of scams involve money for travel to the man’s country. Take common sense precautions: send her the ticket rather than money if you want her to come visit you. Keep your purse in your pocket, it’s difficult to get scammed as far as you do it.

Check out the girl’s incredibly beautiful appearance, the photo may be false. Ask her for more photos that are not made in the studio.

Ask for the girl’s personal information (postal address, telephone, etc.) and see her reaction. Does she ask for gifts? It’s wonderful! Find an agency that delivers flowers and gifts with photo confirmation. Scammers hate this, they love anonymity. This way will be verified not only her appearance but also her postal address and telephone number.

A travel to Russia should be born in mind to meet your pretty Russian girl and her family. If the intentions are serious, of course. Thus the majority of burning questions will be answered and the initial information verified. And may be even more… Remember, 99,9% of pretty Russian girls are actual, REAL. They want to find love and build a family in spite of unfavorable demographic situation in Russia. The rewards of finding a suitable Russian woman outweigh the risks. Use these simple precautions and you will be safe from Russian scam brides.

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Russian women who chose to become "mail order brides" do it to escape economical misery-MYTH

Most women who decide to look for husbands abroad do it NOT because they want an automatic washing machine and hamburgers. Those things are available to people in their societies also. Truly harsh conditions no longer exist in large cities where the majority of Internet "mail order brides"(there is not really any such thing as a mail order bride) reside. Think about it, some people in your society also live in trailers! The myth about economical misery is as good as your knowledge of those societies.

Over the last decade, the world has changed dramatically and life conditions evolved not only in your country. Since the invention of the World Wide Web, technology has rapidly expanded across the globe. It is only in smaller regional towns that you can find conditions that are typically shown in Hollywood movies about Russia and Asia. As you know, lives in small towns in your country are also different from life in big cities, although the gap in foreign countries may be larger.

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Regarding Russians, in general, Russian people do not consider their life miserable. In fact, they are proud to be Russians!

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Russian people believe that they live in a great country, which might have some problems but overall, it is a great country. Just like you believe you live in a great country too. Russians also have their pride in being citizens of the largest country in the world, stretching over 11 time zones and which nearly twice as big as the second largest country in the world – Canada. The majority of Russian people do not think living in the USA, or Canada, or Australia is such a privilege. People that grew up in Soviet Russia all sincerely believed that they were lucky to be born in the USSR and most of them still do. Families of Russian women married to western men rarely express a desire to immigrate to those countries. They don’t want to leave Russia. They enjoy traveling internationally but they don’t want to emigrate.

It is a myth that Russian women search for a foreign husband to escape economical misery. This is not applicable to the majority of Russian women whose listings you see on the Internet and this was not my personal motivation either (you will read my own story in greater detail later).

Many Russian women seeking marriage abroad have advanced careers and live well even according to western standards, having paid housekeepers and nannies for their children. The conditions of life in a major Russian city such as Moscow or St. Petersburg are comparable to any European capital. Pace of life in Moscow is similar to the one of New York City.

Yes, there are some Russian women that use search for a foreign husband as the means to escape poverty, but they are a minority. Some women in your society also use marriage as means of economical escape. Comparatively, the percentages are virtually the same

The real reason why Russian women turn to seek husbands abroad is that they cannot find suitable marriage partners in Russia. Yes, it is that simple!

You might think that a beautiful, slender, physically fit, educated and intelligent woman cannot really have problems with male admirers and you would be right: attractive women in Russia do have dating offers from Russian men. But those men are seeking only casual sex. They are either already married, or unwilling to commit, or they are not worthy of marrying because they cannot provide for a family.

Since all Russian women want children in their marriages (unless they are physically unable), thats part of the culture; they seek men who will be able to support their family while she is unable to work while caring for the child or children. Most Russian women take full time care of their children up to the age of 3. This tradition was inherited from the Soviet times when their work position was preserved for 3 years after child birth, with fully paid maternity leave for 18 months and unpaid leave for another 18 months. Nowadays they do not pay the maternity leave but women believe it is right to stay at home with your baby when she is small and seek men who are able to provide for their families.

Russian people marry early and by the age of 22 more than 50% of people are already married. By the age of 25 about 80% of people are married. Since there are less men than women in Russia (10 million more women than men, according to the latest census), and even less men who are worthy, the competition for eligible men is extremely harsh. As a result, the men become spoiled and promiscuous.

It might be hard to believe but a normal man who has a stable job (being able to solely provide for his family), is career and health conscious, and willing to commit, seems like a fairy tale prince to a single Russian woman. Guys like this are scarce in Russia and not available for long.

In contrast, good-looking women are in abundance in Russia, since the tough competition drives women to perfect their looks.

Historically, during the 20th century Russia had many wars, with World War II alone taking 20 million lives and another 20 million of people died in Stalins concentration camps. Nearly 90% of those victims were men. After the war, simply having a man was a blessing. Then there was the 14-year Afghanistan conflict in which hundreds of thousands of young Russian men died. Throughout the entire 20th century Russian women had to compete to ensure they had a husband.

Now they’ve got Chechnya – since 1993, just a few years after Russian troops left Afghanistan.

It is scientifically proven that where there are many more women in society than men, men tend to pursue short-term sexual strategies and are unwilling to commit. Along with other cultural moments, such as traditions of hard drinking and male chauvinism in Russia, it is no wonder that contemporary Russian women seize the opportunities offered by modern technologies and elect to broaden their horizons in their search for a suitable mate.

VASILÍSA THE FAIR (Part 1)

VASILÍSA THE FAIR

Once upon a time there was a merchant who had been married for twelve years and had only one daughter, Vasilísa the Fair. When her mother died the girl was eight years old. On her death-bed the mother called the maiden to her, took a doll out of her counterpane, said: “Vasilísushka, hear my last words. I am dying, and I will leave you my mother’s blessing and this doll. Keep this doll always by you, but show it to nobody, and no misfortune can befall you. Give it food and ask it for advice. After it has eaten, it will tell you how to avoid your evil.” Then the wife kissed her daughter and died.

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After the wife’s death the merchant mourned as it behoved, and then he thought of a second wife. He was a handsome man and found many brides, but he liked one widow more than any one. She was no longer young, and had two daughters of about the same age as Vasilísa. So she was an experienced housewife and mother. The merchant married her, but he had made a mistake, for she was no good mother to his own daughter.

Vasilísa was the fairest damsel in the entire village, and the stepmother and the sisters envied her therefore. And they used to torture her by piling all the work they could on her, that she might grow thin and ugly, and might be tanned by the wind and the sun. And the child lived a hard life. Vasilísa, however, did all her work without complaining, and always grew more beautiful and plumper, while the stepmother and her daughters, out of sheer spite, grew thinner and uglier. Yet there 110they sat all day long with their hands folded, just like fine ladies. How could this be?

   

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It was the doll that had helped Vasilísa. Without her the maiden could never have done her task. Vasilísa often ate nothing herself, and kept the tastiest morsels for the doll; and when at night they had all gone to bed, she used to lock herself up in her cellaret below, give the doll food to eat, and say, “Dollet, eat and listen to my misery. I am living in my father’s house, and my lot is hard. My evil stepmother is torturing me out of the white world. Teach me what I must do in order to bear this life.”

Then the doll gave her good advice, consoled her, and did all her morning’s work for her. Vasilísa was told to go walking, plucking flowers; and all her flowerbeds were done in time, all the coal was brought in, and the water-jugs carried in, and the hearthstone was hot. Further, the doll taught her herb-lore; so, thanks to her doll, she had a merry life; and the years went by.

Vasilísa grew up, and all the lads in the village sought her. But the stepmother’s daughters nobody would look at; and the stepmother grew more evil than ever and answered all her suitors: “I will not give my youngest daughter before I give the elders.” So she sent all the bargainers away, and to show how pleased she was, rained blows on Vasilísa.

One day the merchant had to go away on business for a long time; so the stepmother in the meantime went over to a new house near a dense, slumbrous forest. In the forest there was a meadow, and on the meadow there was a hut, and in the hut Bába Yagá lived, who would not let anybody in, and ate up men as though they were poultry. Whilst she was moving, the stepmother sent her hated stepdaughter into the wood, but she always came back perfectly safe, for the doll showed her the way by which she could avoid Bába Yagá’s hut.

111So one day the harvest season came and the stepmother gave all three maidens their task for the evening: one was to make lace and the other to sew a stocking, and Vasilísa was to spin. Each was to do a certain amount. The mother put all the fires out in the entire house, and left only one candle burning where the maidens were at work, and herself went to sleep. The maidens worked on. The candle burned down, and one of the stepmother’s daughters took the snuffers in order to cut down the wick. But the stepmother had told her to put the light out as though by accident.

“What is to be done now?” they said. “There is no fire in the house and our work is not finished. We must get a light from the Bába Yagá.”

“I can see by the needles,” said the one who was making lace.

“I also am not going,” said the second, “for my knitting needles give me light enough. You must go and get some fire. Go to the Bába Yagá!” And they turned Vasilísa out of the room.

And Vasilísa went to her room, put meat and drink before her doll, and said: “Dolly dear, eat it and listen to my complaint. They are sending me to Bába Yagá for fire, and the Bába Yagá will eat me up.”

Then the Dollet ate, and her eyes glittered like two lamps, and she said: “Fear nothing, Vasilísushka. Do what they say, only take me with you. As long as I am with you Bába Yagá can do you no harm.” Vasilísa put the doll into her pocket, crossed herself, and went tremblingly into the darksome forest.

Suddenly a knight on horseback galloped past her all in white. His cloak was white, and his horse and the reins: and it became light. She went further, and suddenly another horseman passed by, who was all in red, and his horse was red, and his clothes: and the sun rose. Vasilísa went on through the night and the next 112day. Next evening she came to the mead where Bába Yagá’s hut stood. The fence round the hut consisted of human bones, and on the stakes skeletons glared out of their empty eyes. And, instead of the doorways and the gate, there were feet, and in the stead of bolts there were hands, and instead of the lock there was a mouth with sharp teeth. And Vasilísa was stone-cold with fright.

Suddenly another horseman pranced by on his way. He was all in black, on a jet-black horse, with a jet-black cloak. He sprang to the door and vanished as though the earth had swallowed him up: and it was night. But the darkness did not last long, for the eyes in all the skeletons on the fence glistened, and it became as light as day all over the green.

Vasilísa trembled with fear, but remained standing, for she did not know how she could escape. Suddenly a terrible noise was heard in the forest, and the tree-boughs creaked and the dry leaves crackled. And out of the wood Bába Yagá drove in inside the mortar with the pestle, and with the broom swept away every trace of her steps. At the door she stopped, sniffed all the way round, and cried out:

“Fee, Fo, Fi, Fum, I smell the blood of a Russian mum!