Showing posts with label Long-term relationship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Long-term relationship. Show all posts

Wednesday, July 22, 2020

Understanding Your Russian Women


So you have found your perfect match. There is definitely chemistry between the two of you and you undeniably click. She's beautiful, smart, kind, and funny. She is caring and warm. She is demure and proper, yet she gets out of her shell once in a while when needed. She is a charmer and can laugh at herself. Simply put, she is perfect.

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Here comes the bigger challenge keeping her. By now you have probably gone through a number of interracial marriage agencies, Internet-based marriage agencies, and a number of meet-ups in and out of the country. Never let your efforts go to waste. Make sure that your love is a keeper.

Here are the ways.
Forget everything you learned from the dating site or marriage agency you signed up for. Once you are together, it is up to the both of you to work on your compatibility. Start all over again and explore everything about each other as if you have never communicated before.

Don't compare her to other women, whether Western women or Russian Women. Recognize the fact that that she is her own unique self. There may be things about her that you may find different, maybe even weird. But just sit back and you may actually realize that these are the things you miss the most when you're not together.


Know a little about her history. Her thinking and attitude are shaped by the grievances, hardships, celebrations, and experiences her nation and her people have had in the past. If you do exert some effort, you may be able to find fascinating things about her country and her ancestors. You will eventually be able to understand how and why she thinks the way that she does.

Understand her traditions. If you understand the tradition that your Russian woman grew up in, you will be able to determine the things she would find beautiful, interesting, and offensive. Know that Russian women are conservative and do not easily open up about sensitive topics such as sex. She is reserved and private, therefore she reveals her inner self only to a few chosen people. If you are sensitive about her nature, then she will appreciate you more.

Try to learn their language. Or at least learn how to say I love you in Russian (get your first lesson for free). Doing this creates the impression that you are willing to do small, simple, and sweet things for her. Doing this also communicates that you ready for a committed relationship that may actually result in a walk down the aisle.

Find out what makes her tick. Be observant. Take visual clues of what she finds amazing. When you see her face light up, take note of what just took place or what she just saw. If you keep doing the things she loves, then you are sure to get that love back.

Stick to your woman. This is perhaps the best advice you can take. There is no excuse for cheating. And cheaters are not worthy to be forgiven. Russian woman, like any other woman of any descent, appreciate honesty above everything else. Without honesty, there can be no trust. Without trust, there can be no relationship.


Thursday, July 9, 2020

VASILÍSA THE FAIR (Part 1)

VASILÍSA THE FAIR


Once upon a time there was a merchant who had been married for twelve years and had only one daughter, Vasilísa the Fair. When her mother died the girl was eight years old. On her death-bed the mother called the maiden to her, took a doll out of her counterpane, said: “Vasilísushka, hear my last words. I am dying, and I will leave you my mother’s blessing and this doll. Keep this doll always by you, but show it to nobody, and no misfortune can befall you. Give it food and ask it for advice. After it has eaten, it will tell you how to avoid your evil.” Then the wife kissed her daughter and died.

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After the wife’s death the merchant mourned as it behoved, and then he thought of a second wife. He was a handsome man and found many brides, but he liked one widow more than any one. She was no longer young, and had two daughters of about the same age as Vasilísa. So she was an experienced housewife and mother. The merchant married her, but he had made a mistake, for she was no good mother to his own daughter.

Vasilísa was the fairest damsel in the entire village, and the stepmother and the sisters envied her therefore. And they used to torture her by piling all the work they could on her, that she might grow thin and ugly, and might be tanned by the wind and the sun. And the child lived a hard life. Vasilísa, however, did all her work without complaining, and always grew more beautiful and plumper, while the stepmother and her daughters, out of sheer spite, grew thinner and uglier. Yet there 110they sat all day long with their hands folded, just like fine ladies. How could this be?

   

 

It was the doll that had helped Vasilísa. Without her the maiden could never have done her task. Vasilísa often ate nothing herself, and kept the tastiest morsels for the doll; and when at night they had all gone to bed, she used to lock herself up in her cellaret below, give the doll food to eat, and say, “Dollet, eat and listen to my misery. I am living in my father’s house, and my lot is hard. My evil stepmother is torturing me out of the white world. Teach me what I must do in order to bear this life.”

Then the doll gave her good advice, consoled her, and did all her morning’s work for her. Vasilísa was told to go walking, plucking flowers; and all her flowerbeds were done in time, all the coal was brought in, and the water-jugs carried in, and the hearthstone was hot. Further, the doll taught her herb-lore; so, thanks to her doll, she had a merry life; and the years went by.

Vasilísa grew up, and all the lads in the village sought her. But the stepmother’s daughters nobody would look at; and the stepmother grew more evil than ever and answered all her suitors: “I will not give my youngest daughter before I give the elders.” So she sent all the bargainers away, and to show how pleased she was, rained blows on Vasilísa.

One day the merchant had to go away on business for a long time; so the stepmother in the meantime went over to a new house near a dense, slumbrous forest. In the forest there was a meadow, and on the meadow there was a hut, and in the hut Bába Yagá lived, who would not let anybody in, and ate up men as though they were poultry. Whilst she was moving, the stepmother sent her hated stepdaughter into the wood, but she always came back perfectly safe, for the doll showed her the way by which she could avoid Bába Yagá’s hut.

111So one day the harvest season came and the stepmother gave all three maidens their task for the evening: one was to make lace and the other to sew a stocking, and Vasilísa was to spin. Each was to do a certain amount. The mother put all the fires out in the entire house, and left only one candle burning where the maidens were at work, and herself went to sleep. The maidens worked on. The candle burned down, and one of the stepmother’s daughters took the snuffers in order to cut down the wick. But the stepmother had told her to put the light out as though by accident.

“What is to be done now?” they said. “There is no fire in the house and our work is not finished. We must get a light from the Bába Yagá.

“I can see by the needles,” said the one who was making lace.

“I also am not going,” said the second, “for my knitting needles give me light enough. You must go and get some fire. Go to the Bába Yagá!” And they turned Vasilísa out of the room.

And Vasilísa went to her room, put meat and drink before her doll, and said: “Dolly dear, eat it and listen to my complaint. They are sending me to Bába Yagá for fire, and the Bába Yagá will eat me up.”

Then the Dollet ate, and her eyes glittered like two lamps, and she said: “Fear nothing, Vasilísushka. Do what they say, only take me with you. As long as I am with you Bába Yagá can do you no harm.” Vasilísa put the doll into her pocket, crossed herself, and went tremblingly into the darksome forest.

Suddenly a knight on horseback galloped past her all in white. His cloak was white, and his horse and the reins: and it became light. She went further, and suddenly another horseman passed by, who was all in red, and his horse was red, and his clothes: and the sun rose. Vasilísa went on through the night and the next 112day. Next evening she came to the mead where Bába Yagá’s hut stood. The fence round the hut consisted of human bones, and on the stakes skeletons glared out of their empty eyes. And, instead of the doorways and the gate, there were feet, and in the stead of bolts there were hands, and instead of the lock there was a mouth with sharp teeth. And Vasilísa was stone-cold with fright.

Suddenly another horseman pranced by on his way. He was all in black, on a jet-black horse, with a jet-black cloak. He sprang to the door and vanished as though the earth had swallowed him up: and it was night. But the darkness did not last long, for the eyes in all the skeletons on the fence glistened, and it became as light as day all over the green.

Vasilísa trembled with fear, but remained standing, for she did not know how she could escape. Suddenly a terrible noise was heard in the forest, and the tree-boughs creaked and the dry leaves crackled. And out of the wood Bába Yagá drove in inside the mortar with the pestle, and with the broom swept away every trace of her steps. At the door she stopped, sniffed all the way round, and cried out:

“Fee, Fo, Fi, Fum, I smell the blood of a Russian mum!

Sunday, July 5, 2020

Finest Russian Women Still Want American Men. Why?

Why do the finest Russian women search for American men?


As an owner of a free Russian women dating site, I have been asked a lot about Russian ladies looking for American men. Here is one of the questions:
I am a 31 year old American man and tried the personals in the US. I had little luck with local dating and regional dating sites. However, when I started using the Russian personals, the response was overwhelming.

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Why are the finest Russian women so much more interested in corresponding with American men than are American women interested in corresponding with American men?”
If you ask Russian ladies looking for American men about their motivations for seeking a husband abroad you may find out some convincing arguments for doing so.

Here are the top 6 reasons why the finest Russian women start searching for a foreign husband.

-> Census, Russia is home to 10 million more women then men. The number of women in their 30s noticeably exceeds the number of men. After the divorce, the woman with a kid (or with no kids) has little chance of getting married again in Russia, according to sociologists. There are no men in Russia to get married to: mortality rate of the working age males is extremely high.

-> Women are overloaded with family responsibilities in Russia: housekeeping, upbringing of children and earning of money. They have to take charge of all everyday problems that are essential for their families. For the sake of truth it should be said, there ARE nice, responsible and sober men in Russia but we don’t easily meet them. The unvarnished truth is: most Russian men abuse alcohol and do not provide for their families. Psychologists say, Russian men undervalue the essence of family.

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-> Finest Russian women are highly educated and want careers. Depending on where she lives in the FSU, she may find that it is impossible for her to have the career she wants and to realize her full potential there. Most educated women have more ambition than to simply function from 9 to 5 for a tiny salary. There’s nothing wrong with that, as long as she seeks a loving relationship with the man and his moral support.

-> Some Russian women are looking to live in an economically more stable environment (and I don’t just mean the ones who are obviously looking for a ‘sugar daddy’, although there are some of those as well as you already know).
In other words, it is reasonable to say some want to live in a better economy but we can not assume that is what every Russian woman looking abroad desires.
There’s nothing wrong with that as well, as long as the woman’s feelings toward the man are sincere.

-> The female has an instinct to choose a mate of good genes, to support the family, and defend the children of that union. If the finest Russian women see American men for that basic instinct, than she has made a wise choice, not just about money, but thinking about the future.

-> Sometimes people are just lonely. They either have different standards or just haven’t met the right person and have expanded their selection. There is nothing wrong with that. There is something even satisfying about looking abroad. It can be a win-win situation.

“Marriages between Russian women and American men are very successful and harmonious”, O. Makhovskaya, the senior research assistant at the Psychology Institute in Russia’s Academy of Sciences says. “Families of this kind where husbands are Americans and women are Russians prove to be long-living, as the roles in the family are clearly distributed and the mechanism operates good, although these are mixed families. In such families each of the couple is ready to make concessions and on the whole, wonderfully performs the role.”

My opinion on these relationships is: trust. If you found the right person, if you met a nice woman don’t worry about the “why”…too much, there is no one answer. Trust and enjoy.

The notion ‘Russian woman’ includes women from Ukraine and Belarus as well, as they have very much in common.

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Sunday, June 28, 2020

6 Tips for NOT Dating Russian Women

Look around the (online dating) web and you will notice that the online dating scene is a lot focused on single Russian women and other East European women. The reason that in particular women from these countries are looking for a foreign partner is generally known, but will not be discussed in this article. But I do like to give you some tips when you must NOT be dating or contacting Russian women.


Let me give you 6 valuable tips:

Tip 1.
If you are a single man and you don't want to be single anymore then you probably already are using the Internet as a source to find a new partner. But fun dating, chatting and playing around with people from your own culture or country is something different then being determined to find specific a Russian woman with the one and only purpose: to marry her. This means traveling to Russia (to meet her), possible language barrier, learning about the Russian (women) culture, be prepared for unexpected situations, like money expenses, possible scam situations (if you are looking in the wrong places) and many more.

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If you are not convinced about yourself that this is all worth for you, then don't start dating or contacting Russian women. A serious looking Russian woman who is a formal member of a serious established agency has already prepared herself before she decides to register herself as a possible candidate for serious looking single men from all over the world. She is not looking for pen pals or everlasting months of email correspondence, no she is looking for a life partner with one main purpose: to build a happy family.

Tip 2.

If you think that register yourself at some dubious free dating site would be enough to present yourself as a serious looking single man, who is looking for a serious marriage minded Russian woman with the expectation that many women will contact you first, then don't start to find your future Russian wife in these places, because you will not find them here. These kind of sites can be fun of course, but are also hotbeds for possible scammers.  Believe me, I have unfortunately a lot of experience with men who started at the wrong places. Be smart and take a huge head-start by avoiding these places.

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Tip 3.
There are people who register themselves in mens catalogs with photographs as if they are looking like Tarzans or use photos only wearing swimming shorts, just to impress young good looking ladies. And write a biography using 3 lines like Hello, my name is [name], I am a single man looking for a young beautiful woman who also likes music, going out, having fun and drive fast cars, if you are interested, then please write me back.


If you identify yourself with that kind of persons, then don't contact or try to impress Russian women in such way. Russian women are not looking for Brad Pitt look-alikes or muscles like Sylvester Stallone. They are not judging looks at all, and you will find out why if you take the trouble to do this the right way.

Tip 4.
If you think Russian women are looking for any (western) man just because you think they are looking for a new country, a better life, a wealthy man, no matter if he is 20 years older than she is, then please keep on dreaming. They just seek compatible partners for long term-relationships and marriage and want to love and be loved, that's all no more, no less!  Click HERE to look for your Russian bride.

Tip 5.
If you don't have a regular job or (enough) income or don't have a house/apartment (rent or owned) big enough to live with a family, or if you have any serious criminal records (I am not talking about non paid parking tickets), then don't try to bring a Russian woman into your country. You will not succeed. Not because of my personal advice which has nothing to do with this, but because of the strict regulations, procedures and rules that are imposed by the authorities when you have the intention to immigrate a Russian woman into your country.


Tip 6
If you think, that when she finally joins you in your country, you can start living your normal life again and if you think she is capable enough to find her own way in your (for her) strange country, to find at once a job, to teach herself your language and find by herself new friends and if you think she should be thankful that you have pulled her out her poor mafia controlled and corrupted country, then don't start even thinking about contacting a Russian woman. At least the first months she will need extra support from you to settle herself with you as a just married husband-and-wife couple and she has to adjust to your country (customs), your culture, your language, your friends, your colleagues, your shops, your train and bus schedule, your etc. and that takes time and patience from both of you.

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